Proverbs 13:24 King James Version (KJV)
24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
I’m an “it takes a village…” Type of mom because, I believe that it truly DOES take a village to raise a child. There was a time in history where people would help keep each other’s children disciplined but also SAFE. If an adult caught a child misbehaving they would correct the child and then inform the parents of the situation. This method worked, it helped people to grow up understanding that someone is always watching you, so be careful of your actions.
As a current single mom, I still believe in this method with my own child, if you see my daughter misbehaving or being disrespectful, properly correct her and notify me so that I can, also, properly handle the situation. I understand that this isnt the ways of today’s world. I often get thrown off when my daughter tells me another child has done something to her, I hesitate to even correct another child because I know that in 2019, some parents have the tendency to get defensive about their children and even deny wrong doing on their child’s behalf. Understandable (kind of 🙄). However, I feel as if it keeps me from actually showing my daughter that I’m here to protect her, this is the entire reason for her alerting me that something is wrong. Also, what kind of example would I be showing my daughter about being a civilized, respectful woman (of God) if I’m arguing and fighting with another parent (in front of her)?
what kind of example would I be showing my daughter about being a civilized, respectful woman (of God) if I’m arguing and fighting with another parent (in front of her)?
This may be going a little off course, but I will say that when certain situations arise (and something I hate so very much about being a single mom) it leaves the woman and child vulnerable to attacks (physical and spiritual) when no father or husband is involved. Inside of Christianity (even outside) husbands are supposed to be the head of the household to be a covering and protector /provider/disciplinarian. This may not apply if you are already married or due to be married (or maybe it does 🤷🏽).
husbands are supposed to be the head of the household to be a covering and protector /provider/disciplinarian
I guess what Im getting at is, what am I supposed to do if my daughter starts not trusting me to protect her? What will I do? What will she do? Who will she turn to if she cant turn to mommy? At times I want to keep her isolated because I know how children can be, I used to get bullied as a child and it affected my personality in MANY ways. I can’t allow that cycle to continue because it can cause a child to take on a rebellious spirit, a spirit of rejection (this is a FAITH-BASED BLOG, SO I AM GOING THERE! If you’re new to the faith, keep growing and you’ll understand what I am talking about), and even rage. I’ve had MANY highs and lows as a teen, being in a bit of trouble, I became bulimic and even self mutilated. I had low self-esteem, amongst many things.
I became bulimic and even self mutilated. I had low self-esteem, amongst many things.
Some would read this and say “don’t raise your child to be a punk” CORRECT! I believe in self-defense, but should my daughter fight and seriously harm another child, it could be negative repercussions behind that such as law suits, jail time, etc. literally anything so, we can’t always use our fists and our weapons. We have to use our minds and our wisdom FIRST and that’s what I’m instilling in my child. As parents, there are some bridges we cannot cross until we actually get there, but I often ponder if I can handle the trip. . .