IT’S OKAY TO BE ALONE [SOMETIMES]

GROWING UP, I USED TO BEG FOR FRIENDS, I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO SEEM COOL AND TO AVOID LONELINESS. AS AN ADULT, I SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY, IN FACT, I SEE THEM THE WAY MY PARENTS USED TO (POORLY) EXPLAIN THEM TO ME: “YOU DON’T NEED FRIENDS, A FEW YEARS FROM NOW THESE FRIENDS WONT MATTER”. TO A CHILD, THEY WONT UNDERSTAND THIS CONCEPT, AS A YOUNG WOMAN I TOTALLY GET IT. I’M NOT SURE IF THE EFFECTS OF BEING FRIENDLESS HAD FUELED MY INTROVERTED NATURE BUT FOR SURE I DON’T CARE AS MUCH AS I DID [BACK THEN]TO BE ACCEPTED BY THE WORLD. I HAVE A HANDFUL OF FRIENDS THAT I SPEAK TO WHEN NECESSARY BUT MY LIFE SURROUNDS SO MUCH MORE AND I FEEL THAT THE PEOPLE THAT I’M SUPPOSED TO TOUCH AND THE PEOPLE THAT I’M SUPPOSED TO BE SURROUNDED BY ARE VERY PRESENT IN MY LIFE. I’M HAPPY WITH A VERY SMALL CIRCLE, I’M HAPPY WHEN I’M IN MY QUIET LITTLE PEACEFUL HOME, I’M ABLE TO THINK, I REFLECT, AND I GET TO KNOW WHO I AM WITHOUT THE DISTRACTION OF OTHERS. I REMEMBER THE DAYS OF REACHING OUT FOR ATTENTION AND WHINING ABOUT MY PHONE NEVER RINGING, NOW I COULD’T CARE LESS, I DON’T EVEN LOOK FOR NOTIFICATIONS ON MY PHONE, I’M ACTUALLY AVOIDING PHONE CALLS AT THIS POINT.

WHAT MY PARENTS HAD FAILED TO BREAK DOWN [TO ME] WAS, YOU DO NEED FRIENDS AT SOME POINT, YOU DON’T NEED TO SPREAD YOURSELF THIN BY TRYING TO KEEP IN CONTACT WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN YOUR SENIOR HIGH CLASS OR EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU’VE ENCOUNTERED IN COLLEGE BECAUSE IT’S JUST. NOT. FEASIBLE. WE ALL LEAD DIFFERENT LIVES AND YOU CAN’T TOUCH BASES WITH PEOPLE 24/7, BREAKS ARE TOTALLY FINE [AND ACTUALLY NECESSARY], GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE TO MISS EACH OTHER SO THAT THE NEXT TIME YOU DO MEET UP, YOU’LL ACTUALLY HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT. SOME PEOPLE ARE NATURAL BORN SOCIALITES AND THAT’S OKAY BUT IF YOU LEAD FULL LIVES WITH CHILDREN, SPOUSES, ACTIVITIES, ETC. YOU WILL WEAR YOURSELF OUT WITH DOING PULSE CHECKS ON EVERYONE DOWN YOUR FACEBOOK LIST [AND EVEN RISK NEGLECTING SOME PRETTY IMPORTANT THINGS IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE]. I THINK THAT MY MAIN POINT HERE IS BALANCE. THERE HAS TO BE MODERATION IN EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO. WE ALL GO THROUGH PHASES, SOME OF US JUST CANNOT BE ALONE (WHICH MAY BE A BIT OF AN INTERNAL ISSUE), AND SOME OF US JUST HATE BEING AROUND OTHERS (WHICH MAY BE AN ISSUE, AS WELL).

I TRULY BELIEVE THAT WE HAVE TO TAKE TIME TO SHIFT OUR LIVES AROUND THINGS THAT TRULY MAKES US HAPPY BECAUSE MANY OF US CONTSTANTLY ENCOUNTER PEOPLE THAT MAKE US FEEL AS IF WE HAVE TO CONFORM TO THEIR VIEWS. I HEAR CONVERSATIONS ON THE DAILY WHICH SEEMS TO BE A “LINGERING COLLEGE STUDENT” MINDSET IN THE BRAINS OF FULLY GROWN ADULTS AND NO OFFENSE TO THEM OR ANYONE LIKE THEM BUT IT COULD BE UNHEALTHY, WE WERE MEANT TO GROW AND EVEN GROW APART. WE HAVE TO MASTER THE ART OF LETTING GO AND PUT THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE. I’M NO, EXPERT BUT I DO LIKE TO GRACE PEOPLE WITH A BIT OF ENLIGHTENMENT JUST IN CASE THEY ENCOUNTER THE BLUES OF THE [NEW] WORLD, I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT THIS IS [SOMEWHAT] HELPFUL TO YOU.

BE SURE TO LEAVE A COMMENT, FOLLOW ME ON TWITTER, AND OF COURSE FOLLOW AMBSOUL RIGHT HERE ON WORDPRESS!

BE BLESSED, YOU ALL 🙂

One thought on “IT’S OKAY TO BE ALONE [SOMETIMES]

  1. I enjoyed reading this. The key is to not spread yourself thin trying to keep up with everyone. When there’s a friendship, people can just pickup where they left off and enjoy the bliss of catching up with one another. I enjoyed reading you Amsoul. It’s been a long time since I’ve taken the time to pause and read. Thanks for this 3 am moment.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s