It’s almost a law to take time and focus on yourself, it’s necessary, and it’s something that we all need. You don’t owe a soul a full fledged explanation, in fact, you don’t have to give one at all. As a mother with a pretty fast paced life, it can become overwhelming. I go through periods of disconnecting every few months [or whenever I care to] and I’m, currently, in one as I type this article. I don’t have hatred towards anyone, I’m not depressed, but I’m simply recharging. We can take as much time as we need to internally disconnect, for some it could seem impossible, your phone buzzes non-stop, there’s always someone or something that needs your immediate attention, the word ‘vacation‘ is almost foreign to you, I definitely get it.
What I am learning to do is to give myself space from things that aren’t important, I ignore phone calls that could potentially waste my time. Often I become the go-to person for advice and many of the topics are repetitive, the questions are rhetorical and I cannot lend my precious, irreversible moments of life to things that can be solved and resolved without my assistance.
Yes, best friend I love you, I saw your call, I won’t be calling back anytime soon. Your text will also be ignored until further notice.
Life was never promised to us without problems, we all have them. We have to take time to put our own at the forefront, and this is for anyone that pushes all current priorities to the side for the sake of others.
Another thing that I do is put a cutoff on the internet. I’ve limited my social media use and when certain topics become too heavy I immediately log out. I won’t damage my mental and emotional health any further when the initial goal was to heal, recharge and become a better me. I can openly say that I’m seeking to become more in tuned with my spirit, and more in tuned with God. I understand that not everyone has the same beliefs as I do and I will never judge, these are just things that work for me. I’m focusing on the improvement of my life, the mending of broken pieces and working tirelessly on reaching goals all, while, off of the radar. Few may hear from me and others may have to wait their turn.
For me, this is prioritizing, your mental health is a priority, your physical health is a priority, and your spiritual well-being is a priority. It’s all too easy to become wrapped up in the woes of life and sometimes we need a break,even if it’s not for an extended amount of time. While you’re in the shower, preparing for the day, relax your mind, drink some warm tea, turn your bedroom into a no-phone-zone so that you can get the reccommended amount of sleep each night, turn your televison off, turn on some soothing sounds and doze into a deep slumber. Whatever it is that you need to do, do it. Make that additional step for yourself, you deserve it.
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